Hands down, one of the most requested scenes that I get as a professional Dominatrix (despite the fact that due to legal issues, I rarely provide it, professionally, unless it's mostly hands-off) is CBT. On the vague chance you think I'm talking about cognitive behavioral therapy, I'm actually referring to cock and ball torture. There are as many permutations of a CBT scene as the mind can possibly fathom (and then some) but for the purposes of brevity, I will put forth some scenarios using some of the lovely products found right here on LoversPlayground.com.
If you're just starting out, try some light CBT with a partner (or solo if you wish). As a first-timer, CBT is like masturbation: the more you experience it, the more you understand your bodily response to pain and pleasure, and you can relay this information to a trusted partner. Start light. Some string tied around different parts of the shaft and head, the errant clothespin, perhaps some plastic wrap around your testicles, gently directing circulation elsewhere. Touching the parts you're altering is key - what feels the best? Take notes, and have fun experimenting. For an eager e-stim virgin, try the Fetish Fantasy Shock Therapy Cock Cage. If you're concerned you will be overly sensitive to electric stimulation, try some benzocaine-based gel: Sta-Erect Delay Creme, for example. As it wears off, you may continue to administer shocks to see how well you can increase the pain without hyped-up newbie stress. Remember, if it's too painful, try a different sensation! If it isn't painful enough, get creative!
For a more rhythmically painful setup, put on the Fetish Fantasy Extreme Ball Stretcher, and then pair the Sqweel Go's motions, lightly tapping your testicles, with the Rapture: Five Joint Urethral Plug inserted into your urethra. Some of the error in CBT comes with neglecting certain parts of the genitals: the urethra is oft-neglected in many CBT scenes. All-encompassing pleasure is more than likely your best bet.
For an expert scene, use several packs of the Stay Hard: Beaded Cock Rings to alternate up the shaft until most of it is covered. Ultra-sensitive, it will then be like putty in your hands - swollen, somewhat painful, and rock hard. If you're an experienced and jaded kinkster, pair with The O Man Challenge: Vibrating Cock Ring w/Ball Holster for extra sensation. If you require anal stimulation for optimal play, try adding the Hung: Deep Snake Vibrating Anal Beads & Cock Ring. If you were looking for nipple stimulation, try throwing the Fetish Fantasy Vibrating Cockring with Nipple Clamps into your scene. If you're the kinkiest neighbor on the block and have a very patient partner, use as many as you can simultaneously. Add a penis tip pump such as the Pump Worx Mini Head Teazer for a cockmilkingly exciting end!
Hopefully, you've gotten some ideas, whether you're just dipping in your toes or you've conducted some very complex scenes in the exciting world of CBT. Remember, safety first: if you become nauseated, excessively uncomfortable, notice pouches of fluid where there shouldn't be, a darkening of the skin more than a few shades past your usual skin color, or experience sudden and extreme pain that will not go away, seek immediate medical attention! Keeping that in mind, play safe and have fun!
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Madame Rax is a professional Dominatrix with nearly ten years of experience in the Chicagoland area. If you have a specific question for her, she can be found on Tumblr @Beautifully-Dangerous-Addiction or online at MadameRax.com. |