The awkwardness of initiating intercourse is not regularly discussed. Do you ever wonder what would be a better way to put the moves on your SO when it comes to sex? You may eventually stop asking if you keep receiving “no” as a response. Consider speaking with your partner to get to the bottom of things if this is more frequent than not. Sex is better for all involved when it’s consensual and inclusive! There is no one-size-fits-all script, so without further ado, here are a couple ways to get into sex mode with your partner:



Sending sexy texts to feel the situation out can be less intimidating than other methods of approach. This one goes out to all you shy folks. This is a more subtle and sexy way to let your partner know that you’re thinking about sex and get their mind on it too!


Set the mood with some touching, dirty talk, and complimenting your partner’s sex appeal. Find out what their “love language” is and act accordingly, whether it’s gifts, words, touch, etc. Whisper naughty words in their ear while touching them, and see where it takes you!


The direct route is often the best route if your partner prefers this method of approach or just doesn’t pick up on hints. Sometimes telling them that you’d like to get freaky with them is a turn-on in itself. Give them details of what exactly you want to do.




Surprise them with an outfit that you know will drive them wild. This can be a brand new outfit, a classic favorite, or nothing at all. Either way, they'll know you were thinking about them.


Take turns when it comes to inviting/initiating sex in your relationship, and if your partner isn’t down to fool around, you can always get the job done yourself, for yourself. Sometimes things magically work out and you're both on the same page. No matter which way you go about it, just make sure you have clear consent from your partner. After all, consent is sexy!



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